Unit 3 Whatever Happened to Manners 课文翻译 综合教程一

Unit3WhateverHappenedtoManners课文翻译综合教程一Unit3WhateverHappenedtoManners课文翻译综合教程一PAGEPAGE3Unit3WhateverHappenedtoManners课文翻译综合教程一Unit3WhateverHappenedtoMannersDoyourememberatimewhenpeoplewerealittlenicer,alittlesofter,alittlegentlerwitheachotherIcertainlydo,andIfeelthatmuchoftheworldhassomehowgottenawayfromthat.IseesuchadifferenceinNewYorkCity,forexample,fromwhenIfirstmovedheremorethan20yearsago:peoplerushingintoelevatorswithoutgivingthoseinsideachancetogetofffirst,neversaying"Thankyou."whenothersholdadooropenforthem,or"Please."whentheywantacoworkertohandthemsomething,nevergivingawaveornodofappreciationwhenanothermotoristletsthempulloutintotraffic.Wegetlazy,andinourlazinesswethinkthatsomethinglikeasimple"Thankyou."doesn'treallymatter.Butitcanmatterverymuch.Thefactisthatnomatterhownicelywedress,howbeautifullywedecorateourhomes,orhowlovelyourdinnerpartiesare,wecan'tbetrulystylishwithoutgoodmanners.Infact,Ithinkofgoodmannersasasortofhiddenbeautysecret.Haven'tyounoticedthatthekindest,mostgenerouspeopleseemtokeepgettingprettierTheybecomeCaryGrantorLaurenBacallrightbeforeoureyes.It'sfunnyhowthathappens,butitdoes.Takethelong-lostartofsaying"Thankyou."Likewearingalittlelipstickormakingsureyourhairisneat,gettingintothehabitofsaying"Thankyou."canmakeyoufeelbetteraboutyourself,andthenyoulookbettertoeveryonearoundyou.Agraciousmannernotonlysetsanexcellentexampleforyourchildrenandgrandchildrenbutitaddspricelesspanachetoyourimage.PositiveThankingOfcourse,saying"Thankyou."doeswondersforthepersononthereceivingendtoo.Irecentlygotathank-younotefromaguestwhoattendeda40thbirthdaypartythatFrankandIhostedforFrank'sdaughter-in-law.Thenotewaslovelyenough,butevenlovelierwasthefactthattheguesthadalsoincludedarecipeforadishI'dcomplimentedheronatanearliergathering.Itwasasweetgesturethatmademefeelterrificandputmeinagreatmood.Whatagift!Manyofusknowweshouldwritethank-younotes,butwethinkwedon'thavethetimeorenergy.Now,Iknowweallhavebusylives,butIbetthenotemyguestsentmedidn'ttakelongtowrite.Ifyoufeellikeafeelbecauseyou'veputoffsendingacard,writeanotethatsays,"Ishouldhavedonethistwoweeksago,butIdidn'twanttoletanotherdaygobywithouttellingyouhowmuchIenjoyedyourparty."It'smuchbetterthannotwritingatall.MagicWordsJustaspowerfulasathank-younoteisthesimplephrase"Excuseme."Don'tyoujusthateitwhensomeoneknocksanenormouscarry-onbagintoyourheadwhenhe'sbarrelingdowntheaisletoboardanairplane—andthendoesn'tbothertosayhe'ssorryButwhensomeonedoesstopandturnaroundandgenuinelyapologizes,doesn'titmeltawaymost—ifnotall—oftheirritationyoufeltSameforholdingthedooropenforotherswhenyouseetheirhandsarefull.I'llevendothisforahotelbellmancarryingmyluggage.Justbecausehisjobistocarrymybagsdoesn'tmeanhedoesn'tappreciatealittlegesturethatmakeshislifeaweebiteasier.Andpunctualityisnotathingofthepast,either.Beingontimeforlunchdates,forexample,showsthepersonwe'remeetingthatwevaluehisorherprecioustimeasmuchaswedoourown.BringingMannersHomeAndforheaven'ssake,weshouldn'tforgettousegoodmannerswithourownfamilies.That'swhereitcountsthemostbecausethosearethepeoplewelovethemost.Howlovelyitwouldbetoputacardonyourspouse'spillowatnighttosay"Thankyou."forsomedearthingheorshedidforyouorevenjusttosay"Iloveyou."Similarly,bringinghomethemostinsignificantlittlepresentsforpeopleyoucherishwillgoalongway.Itshowsthey'reinyourthoughtsandyouwanttomakethemhappy.Ifyou'reahusband,howlonghasitbeensinceyouwalkedinthedoorwitharoseforyourwifeOrmaybeherfavoritecandy—evenifit'sjustaSnickersbarYou'dsuregetmyattentionifyoubroughtmeaSnickers!Ifirmlybelievespousesshouldbegraciousabouttheroutinethingstheyexpecteachothertodo.Showthatyoudon'ttaketheotherpersonforgranted.Heorsheismuchmorelikelytotreatyouthesameway.Goodmannersareinfectious.Now,ifwecouldjustgeteveryonetocatchthem!礼貌怎么了你是否还记得有一个时期人们相互更友好、更温柔、更绅士呢我确实记得，并且我感觉现在这个世界不知怎么在远离那个时代。比方说，自从二十年前我最初搬到这里，我在纽约见到了这样的差异：人们冲进电梯而没有给机会让里面的人先出来，当有人为他们拉着门时。他们从来不说“谢谢你”，或者当他们想让同事递给他们某样东西时从来不说“请”，当其他的开车者让他们先驶入车流时他们从来不挥手或点头表示感谢。我们越来越懒，在我们的懒惰中我们认为像简单地说句“谢谢你”这种事情真的不要紧。但是它真的很重要。事实是无论我们穿得多美，无论我们把房子装修得多漂亮，或者无论我们的晚宴办得多好，没有礼貌我们就不可能是真正的时尚。实际上我把礼貌当作一种被隐藏的美丽的秘密。你难道没有注意到最和蔼、最慷慨的人们似乎变得越来越漂亮吗他们在我们的眼前变成了加里·格兰特和劳伦·巴卡尔。那种事情的发生过程很有趣，但确实是真的。来讨论一下失去已久的道谢艺术。像抹一点口红或确信一下你的头发是整洁的，养成习惯说“谢谢你”能使你自我感觉更好些，对周围的人来说你也会看着更好些。亲切的礼貌不仅为你的孩子和子孙们树立了优秀的榜样，而且为你的形象增添了无法用价值来衡量的光彩。积极的道谢说“谢谢你”当然也给听者带来未曾料想的好结果。最近我收到了一封来自一位客人的感谢信，她参加了我和弗兰克为他儿媳举办的四十岁生日聚会。这张便条就足以令人愉快了，但更为赏心悦目的是她还附带了一道菜的食谱，这是我在早前一次聚会上恳请她给我的。这种甜美的姿态使我感觉好极了，心旷神怡。多好的礼物啊！我们许多人都知道应该写感谢信，但都认为没有时间或精力去写。我知道现在大家生活都很忙，但是我打赌这位客人送给我的感谢信并没有花很长的时间去写。如果你感觉你迟发了明信片，就写一对感谢信。可以这样写“两周前我就应该做这件事了，但是我不想再让另一天溜走而没有告诉您，我对您的聚会有多喜欢”。这比什么都没写要好得多。魔力话语和感谢信一样简单有力的话语是“对不起”。当有人匆忙地登机，走过狭窄的过道时随身携带的包砸了一下你的头也不说声“对不起”，你不觉得这很讨厌吗但当有人停下来转过身真正道歉时，难道不会平息你的大部分——如果不是全部——的恼怒吗同样的事，当你看见他人手上都是东西时为他们把着门。我甚至会为拎着我行李的饭店门童这样做。仅仅因为他的工作是拎我的行李，并不意味着他不会感谢一下让他的生活变得更容易一些的动作。而且准时也不是只有在过去的事情。比如，午餐约会准时就向与我们见面的那个人表明，我们珍视他／她的宝贵时间就像珍视我们自己的一样。将礼貌带回家看在上帝的份上，我们不应忘记对自己的家人也彬彬有礼。那是最重要的，因为那些人是我们最爱的人。如果晚上在你的伴侣枕边放上一张卡，为了他／她为你所做的充满爱意的事写上“谢谢你”或者仅仅说句“我爱你”该是多么美好的一件事啊！同样，为你珍爱的人带回家最没有意义的小礼物也要长久下去。这表明你在想着他们而且你想让他们快乐。如果你是一个丈夫，那么自从上次你拿着送给你妻子的玫瑰走进家门已经有多长时间了或者是她最喜欢的糖果——就算是一盒士力架巧克力如果你带给我一块巧克力你肯定会引起我的注意！我绝对相信伴侣们对于日常琐事应该有礼貌，并且他们期待对方这样做。你要表明你没有想当然地对待另一个人。他／她更可能同样地对待你。礼貌相互感染。现在，如果我们能让每一个人感染上它就好了！