压力与挫折（Stress and frustration）

压力与挫折（Stress and frustration） 压力与挫折(Stress and frustration) Stress and frustration coping There are many failures in life. Take the words you are struggling with. You learn a word, you back ten times did not remember, back eleven times to remember, in front of you back process 10 times is a failure, you stand in front of ten times of failure to win over ten success, you will always remember this word. So failure can be repeated many times without serious consequences, but success is only once, and it is eternal. Edison bulb did two thousand experiments, but in the end he succeeded. Until today, the human darkness was still illuminated by the bulb of Edison's invention, and Edison achieved eternal success. So how strong is a person's ability to withstand failure and how successful he will be?. A philosopher once said: growth is a person sheds naivete pupa clothing process give birth to beautiful butterfly wings. Change is painful, is impassable in the growth process of the reality, the only way which must be passed and everyone in life. Learning stress. Examination pressure, employment pressure Regret is the shadow of choice. Regret is the companion of life, and stress is the twin brother of frustration. Then you're going to be a screenwriter, pick 3 people and act as the three sales manager for the jewelry company, The first hurdle: three people enter a black house where nothing is seen, and the reactions of 3 people inside are observed Second pass: turn on the light, there is only one chair inside, see the reaction of three people Third: you pretend that one of you is XX famous university alumni, see his reaction Fourth: let them respectively into a cage with the king cobra, try for 5 minutes, the snake is poisonous Fifth off: escort a jewelry box, during a robbery, see their reaction. After five passes, from the pressure and the setback and the desire, three aspects respectively carries on the summary to three people. It's a play scene, you're going to have three characters and lines in advance, and then let them play. (frustration) on the mental health of college students, the most important thing is not defeat itself, but the setbacks of the individual caused by negative emotions and feelings, and suffered a setback after the first to face and need to solve is how to adjust the resulting from setbacks such as anger, frustration, depression, anxiety, wronged, helpless emotional state. Setbacks and failure is inevitable in life, but for different people, but they have different meanings, or it is your perfect life embellishment, or pain forever in your life; or a stepping stone for your success, or is the stumbling stock, which depends on the setbacks the attitude of frustration cognition and coping style. In the face of setbacks, we should learn from the different perspective of frustration for the meaning of life, read across the beautiful, we should be able to draw lessons in frustration at the same time, learn to see the positive significance of frustration behind. Psychologists believe that those who have suffered setbacks and failures can meet the challenges bravely. In the process of growing up, often experienced setbacks, after years of training, will have a strong ability to survive in adversity. No matter how difficult, they are not as easy as the thatched house encountered a storm crushed; in disaster hit like a hurricane, also can stand tall and unwavering. Faced with setbacks, young college students can use the following methods: 1) face it calmly and control it with pleasure Faced with setbacks, different people have different attitudes. Better to face up than to dodge, fear, or repel. In the face of an overwhelming defeat, the only acceptable attitude is to face it calmly. If you can then be happy to control the trouble of the setback, then a trauma will become a precious pearl". "Pearl" is something that has been sublimated from healing wounds. It can not only effectively heal wounds, but also make us value experience and reduce mistakes. Remember there is such a story: a butterfly must pass without chrysalis throes, that out of the shell after body fat, shriveled wings, can not fly, died soon. The little story tells us that pain is the only way to grow up. To be happy, we must be able to endure pain and frustration. In life, we not only have the suffering experience, also has the misfortune to happiness, the pain becomes invaluable treasures, the defects of distressing become new power opportunities. When we face it calmly, we can handle setbacks. When we have enough courage and keep happy, we can get the most precious harvest. (two) release moderately and get rid of it as soon as possible In the face of setbacks, there are those who are sad and pessimistic. They bury their pain and frustration in their hearts; others choose to talk - I agree with the latter. If you are depressed, you may as well find one or two people who are close to you and pour out what you have in mind. This way, unhealthy emotions will be revealed. Catharsis is a kind of self psychological care, and it can eliminate the mental pressure caused by frustration. Catharsis should be moderate, "beggar type", "offensive", "touch" and other catharsis is not worth taking. If you want to live with dignity, but also want to start doing something you don't like "Hsiang Lin's wife" that always tells the story of "Amauri". It only means that you have not come out of the shadow of the pain, and that your crying only reminds people of your incompetence. When you realize that there are so many good things waiting for you to do, there is no need to select the "Chrysanthemum", because of the excessive "lawsuit" the cost is too high, always to say "will affect the business. Use the time saved to do what you should do. You may have been away from the effects of a storm. (three) stimulate potential and independent self-help; Independent self-help is the most shining quality in life, which has been proved by many cases. In the face of setbacks, some people recover, while others stimulate their potential and save themselves - the former does not see his potential, and the latter fully absorbs the power of potential. A little story: "a pig waist dislocated, where laborious crawl and grandson to help pig massage, grandfather called him, my grandfather picked up a clod to throw to the pig, the pig was struggling to run after it, Grandpa saw that the pig ran behind. He ran up the waist, back to normal". A person who suffers setbacks is like a little pig who is dislocated. The only person who can help you is not others, but yourself. Sometimes, we ignore the pain in frustration of their potential and to correct the wrong courage, blindly wait for help, this is to give up on their own responsibilities and obligations, it is a lazy and shiftless way. Horsefly effect found in Lincoln "and" Wuxi Little Swan Group "doomsday management", is actually a truth: the huge potential to stimulate life by crisis generated pressure. People need pressure, with pressure, we do not dare to relax, will work hard, will continue to progress. In fact, to make yourself busy in life is a method of self pressurization. In the face of setbacks, moderate transfer of attention, self increase positive pressure, can effectively improve their mood. For example, by engaging in philately, writing, calligraphy, art, music and other interesting activities to debug their feelings, ease the depression brought about by depression, with the passage of time, the depression will gradually fade away. (four) appropriate choice, away from trouble To give up is a kind of wisdom and realm, but how many people can do it when facing the temptations of reality? A lot of people have been calm and peaceful life, but once too many temptations and desires involved, they worry about clustering. There are times when we set our goals too high; sometimes we aim too far - that's why we suffer a lot. Both the former or the latter make us feel more than we can and will eventually lead to lost and hopeless. It is wise to learn how to make a choice, not necessarily the first fight, abandon oneself do not have the ability and conditions of the target is not a bad thing, "Misfortune may be an actual blessing."? Only in that his life needs, to wisely choose, and learn to give up, in order to get rid of unnecessary troubles, has a comfortable life. Three) learn to tell your secrets, dispel the pain in the warmth of family and friendship, and gain strength and support from others. When a joy is shared by two people, it becomes two joys; a pain is shared by two people, and it becomes half misery. Learn to tell you the secret, you will not only ease the pressure and emotional pain, but you can learn to look at problems from different angles, often there will be a "There is a way out.". There are many ways to cope with setbacks, such as a good life every day, a full life, we will have no time to take into account setbacks; such as at the same time learn to forget, let time make the decision, and so on. How to choose, vary from person to person, we need to slowly understand in life. (pressure) college students should face the pressure correctly and improve their psychological endurance. Students themselves should realize that college life is not always smooth sailing, and the difficulties are unavoidable and objective. Therefore, when faced with difficulties, we should not shrink back, but be bold enough to face it and solve it. A positive attitude should be taken to look at stress. That is, stress can temper human will, stimulate people's wisdom and potential, and see stress as a challenge to life and an opportunity for growth. Balzac said, "things in the world are never absolute, and the results are entirely different.". Suffering is a stepping stone to talent, a treasure for the able man, and a bottomless abyss for the weak." Therefore, in the face of pressure to maintain courage and confidence, ready to brave to meet all kinds of tasks and challenges. Self confidence is the foundation of success. With confidence, you will have the courage and strength to overcome difficulties. To establish the right goals, objectives, to use their own perseverance and strong will to achieve, not ambitious, can not give up halfway. Especially in the field of learning, can not be used to measure economic value and benefits, benefits and long-term benefits is knowledge, can not simply think that learning theory knowledge will immediately have greatly improved in the ability. The idea of "quick success and instant benefit" is never conducive to the exercise of our will and the formation of healthy psychology. As a college student, you should also be active in stress and relieve stress through some means. These methods are: (1) attention transfer, that is, to shift your attention away from stress sources and move to something else that interests you, thereby reducing stress. (2) sports law, the results show that walking, jogging, playing tennis and so on, to offset and reduce the pressure is beneficial. Any activity can increase the input to the body and brain oxygen, promote blood circulation, people will be more smart, and thus enhance the ability to resist pressure. In addition, college students can also create some suitable ways to relieve their pressure according to their own practice. Thereby effectively reducing the adverse consequences of stress and enhancing the positive consequences of stress. Famous quotes about setbacks Suffering is the teacher of life, through hardship to joy. - Beethoven Man's life is like a flood in torrents, and without the islands and reefs, it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves. -- aositeluo The seed does not choose to fall on fertile land but in the rubble, the seed with life is never pessimistic or sad, for it has undergone resistance. - Xia Yan If you fall one hundred times, you must stand up one hundred and one times. - Zhang Haidi The difficulties and suffering for the people, is a fight to the blank hammer, destroyed the iron should be vulnerable, will be forged into a sharp knife. - Chekhov The mineral resources that exploit human intelligence are indispensable and need to be created by adversity. It takes pressure to get the powder to go off fire. - Alexandre Dumas If we have accepted the worst, then there will be no loss. - Carnegie There is only one road to the true great state of mankind, the road to misery. - Einstein God is only in order to strengthen our will, we set up many obstacles in our way. - Tagore Not because of luck and not because of bad luck and content with staying where one is unable to get up after a fall. A true strong man is good at finding shadows in prosperity, finding light in adversity, and always aligning his progress. - Ibsen The difficulty that has been overcome is the chance of victory. - Churchill Life is full of brambles. The only way we want to do it is by moving quickly over those thorns. - Voltaire Hope is the faithful sister of misfortune. - Pushkin I think setbacks and tribulations are good opportunities for exercising will and increasing ability. - Zou Taofen Struggle is the school of mastery, and frustration is the bridge to truth. - Gerd Faced with adversity with a brave chest. - Horace All happiness is not without worry, and all adversity is not hopeless. - Bacon The difficulty is bully. The more you fear it, the more it intimidates you. The more you do not put it in the eyes, you said it more deferential. - Xuan Yongguang No reef in the sea, can not afford the waves, life can not withstand setbacks, can not become strong. Proverb I feel smooth before, and why because a small obstacles and not walk? Lu Xun A great advantage of a man of excellence is that he won't break even in the difficulties and hardships. Beethoven Failure is what I need. It's as valuable to success as it is to me. Only when I know the way to do it all, can I know what the best way to do a job is. Edison It is not a bad thing for a person to go through the tortuous path and make mistakes on the way of scientific exploration, nor is it a disgrace, but it is necessary to admit and correct mistakes in practice. Einstein Thousands of grinding, ten strikes, but also tough, as the Southeast wind. Zheng Banqiao, a person always encounter some contradict it, otherwise it will imperceptibly down, people afraid of himself, others scold do not fall. - Guo Moruo Adversity is the highest school of character. Liang Qichao "Not ashamed to admit being the last". Even if it is slow, it will fall behind, it will fail, but it will certainly reach its goal. Lu Xun The day will drop so big people, must suffer the labor of their bones, their body skin hunger, depletion of their body, it is OK Fu chaos, so the spirit, had it not beneficial. People hang off, and then be able to change; trapped in the heart, the balance of consideration, and then sign; in color, hair at the sound, then yu. In no out no learned men and advisors, foreign aggression from enemy states, wakizuz. Then he knew that he was born of misery and died of happiness." ---- Meng Zi Giving children plenty of trial opportunities is also an integral part of the implementation of frustration education. Once the child is deprived of the opportunity to try, it is tantamount to being deprived of the opportunity to make mistakes and correct mistakes, and therefore impossible to succeed in the road. - Schumacher, a famous German education expert A great advantage of a man of excellence is that he won't break even in the difficulties and hardships. Beethoven I think the twists and turns is the exercise will increase the capacity of the opportunity, at this point, I would like to try. I said thanks a lot! []. On the road of life, everyone will encounter difficulties and setbacks, depending on whether you can defeat it. Defeat, you are a hero, is the strong life. [unknown] It is not a bad thing for a person to go through the tortuous path and make mistakes on the way of scientific exploration, nor is it a disgrace, but it is necessary to admit and correct mistakes in practice. Einstein Thousands of grinding, ten strikes, but also tough, as the Southeast wind. Zheng Banqiao No sowing, no harvest; no pains, no great success; no trials, no glory; no setbacks, no glory. Penn Every failure is the first step on the ladder of success. - Taunton