How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work Does holding on to the mantra[颂歌，咒语] “distance makes the heart grow fonder” begin to give you some doubts? If you’re troubled whether your long distance relationship will last long enough or not, you are not alone. Everyday on the planet, millions and millions of people got no choice but to deal with being miles apart from their loved ones: l Executives on a string of offshore【海外的】 meetings, leaving their families behind for days l Soldiers fighting for freedom in a foreign land, with loved ones worrying about them back home l High school sweethearts pursuing college degrees in separate and distant universities l Overseas workers who can’t wait for their contracts to finish and be with their spouses and kids l Movie stars shooting abroad, feeling all alone once the filming lights turn off l Lovers who ran into each other online and awaiting for the day they meet each other physically No matter who or what you are, no one is really excused when it comes to the obstacles posed by being in a long distance relationship. So, can long distance relationships work? Of course! Snubbing 【冷落，斥责】naysayers Like all those millions and millions of people above, I too once had to deal with a long distance relationship. The sad truth is no one really bothers to acknowledge the difficulties of keeping up a long distance relationship – people think it’s downright absurd 【荒唐的】and is bound for a breakup anyway. You know what I mean if you are involved in such kind of a relationship: your parents, best friends, co-workers or classmates might have told you time and again【一次又有一次】 that it’s never going to work. But that’s not true. In fact, there are a lot of things you can do to keep your long distance relationship fiery 【火的，炽热的，热烈的】and strong. Facing up to the challenge Just think of it as a challenge. There’s a certain advantage to being miles away from your loved ones. Couples who got the advantage of meeting up with one another frequently somewhat fail to count their blessings after some time. But in your case, you have every reason to defy 【反抗，挑衅，藐视】distance, to keep the connection alive, and to look forward to seeing each other like it’s the most important thing in the world! Go on. Maintain the long distance relationship. Prove everybody wrong. Thanks to the internet, keeping in touch with your sweetheart【情人，爱人】 abroad is not as expensive as other modes【方式】 of communication in the past. So there’s no reason for you to subscribe to that rubbish “distance makes the heart forget”! You can exchange e-mails, chat and call each other. You may send flying kisses via webcams or flood each other’s social networking site with sweet nothings! Distance not a setback【挫折，退步】 Long distance relationships may sound unusual and challenging – but it’s not impossible! If you want to keep the relationship, then no one or nothing should persuade you to do otherwise – not your family and friends, and most especially not the distance. Distance should not be the basis to end a relationship. Distance should be defied and considered as a test to make the bond stronger. You are not alone. I was once there. Millions and millions of people all around the world find it no problem. They survive it on a daily basis. And so can you! 245 Responses to “How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work” 1. 2. Sam 30. Dec, 2011 I am also in a long distance relationship. Considering our age, I have been the one travelling because I have family where he lives. So, luckily we have been managing to see each other 2 or 3 times a year. And truthfully, although the time apart is killer, being with him feels like I never left. It is a challenge each and everyday, challenge for me, challenge for him, but I swear, there is no one that could ever make me feel like I do when I’m with him. 1 and a half years, and more to come <3.. Good luck everyone!! 3. Eve 01. Jan, 2012 I am in love… God am I in love. I met him online, and we have been together for half a year. I live in CA, he lives in England. Its an 8 hour time difference! When I am going to bed, he is waking up. When I come home, he is going to bed. He is rather jealous, perverted[使坏的，好色的], and protective. But I love him. Our relationship was wonderful, but it is slipping【滑走的】. The love that was there is fading, and I fear he doesn’t love me anymore. Even when he says he does. I worry. The distance is horrible. And Skype is rare… Please… any advice? Just… something… anything… 4. PATIENCE 03. Jan, 2012 I AM SO ENCOURAGED BY THE STORIES OF ISABELLA AND SOME OF THE OTHERS. I’M ENGAGED AND IN PANIC MODE AFTER ONLY 9 MONTHS. HE IS A WONDERFUL GUY AND WE ARE IN LOVE. HE CALLS 3 TIMES A DAY AND SENDS GIFTS. EVEN SENT MY DAUGHTER A BIRTHDAY CAKE. I WILL STOP GOING CRAZY AND JUST BE PATIENT. THANK EVERYONE FOR YOUR STORIES AND ENCOURAGEMENT. 5. Amos 04. Jan, 2012 foxy 07. Jan, 2012 i met my boyfriend a month ago, he stays in Germiston and i’m Alex, it’s not that far but a distance with a public transport, he works nightshifts and i work day shifts, we don’t c each other often, the problem is communication i try to sms and call all the time but no respond from him, i keep my faith and trust in him, we were 2gether 5 days ago it was wonderful to c each other, o know he loves me and i love him, so i’ll keep on trying. but i’m worried why he hasn’t responded back atleast sms【short message service，短信服务】. 6. Alaa 08. Jan, 2012 i am in a long distance relationship too.. it’s just for a couple of months and i am going crazy.. can’t stand being away from him i love him alot really and i miss him too much that i feel sad and down at times.. can’t wait to see him again.. and i say to all of us who are in LDR hang on there… keep your love alive.. it’s not a rule the LDR don’t work!! if that true why all our past relationships with guys or girls next doors went bad and couldn’t work too!! let’s try to be patient and looking only forward for the day when we will be with our lovers together ever after.. 7. Matt 08. Jan, 2012 I’m in a LDR and it’s really hard… I’m 22, my parter is only 17. I’m absolutely head over heels with him, He was due to move in with me 2 days ago, he packed all his stuff, bought the train tickets weeks before (he’s in Milton Keynes and I’m near Liverpool) but his parents stopped him. We’re both devastated but hopefully we’ll find a way. I love him to death but i’m so scared he’ll find someone closer or lose interest and patience. the logical side of me says I should drop it to avoid getting hurt frther down the line, but i can’t and if i did i’d always be left wondering ‘what if’. the worst part is not knowing when I can see him, I wish i knew because then I could count the days 8. terra 12. Jan, 2012 I wish I had a story to tell but I don’t know I loved all of your stories but it is really lonely being in a different state without your spouse. My husband and I was married in 2010 of Sept and that was the last time I saw him besides talking on the phone and yahoo. Please if someone can help me through this I would love it. =( feeling so sad right now don’t know what to do. I am 25 years old. 9. AJ 13. Jan, 2012 I am a chinese Singaporean living in Singapore and my love is iranian living in Australia. We love each other so much and just want to be together. Its been 9 months and we have seen each other in 3 seperate occassions. He was in Singapore for vacation for 22 days to spend time with me and my family. He just left Singapore for Australia yesterday and now my heart feels so lost without him…I was getting used to him being around during the amazing 22 days. we are just taking things step by step and deciding which country to be in together. Hope to see him soon 10. David 16. Jan, 2012 In August I had decided I was moving back to the East Coast because my parents couldn’t afford to pay for my rent anymore, and I was to finish school online. That September I met my boyfriend in class, and it has been such a weird 【古怪的，怪异的，离奇的】relationship because we knew getting into that I was leaving in January. It didn’t stop out connection though, the bond was strong and sturdy【强健的，健全的】. Love was so much it hurt sometimes. And now it’s been 10 days since I’ve touched him, felt his warmth, seen the way he looks at me, and it hurt’s so much. Mostly at night when I go to sleep and it’s just me and the night. My thoughts are ram ambled through my mind into my heart, and I can barely breathe sometimes. I miss him with all I have. And I will fight and fight to be back with him. It’s a blessing to know there are other people out there, like me, like us, trying to make it work. 11. Bill 18. Jan, 2012 Theres this girl that i met off youtube【优兔.一个互联网视频网站 】She is the most amazing thing that ever happened to mr. We talk everyday when we can. Weve known each other for almost a year. I live in florida while she lives in michigan. But i have to say, the longer we sray apart, the more feelings we have for each other. I think about yhis girl all the time. N she does the same to me. I truly love her, ad WE R GOIN TO SEE EACH OTHER ONE DAY. She is so amazing. We always encourage each ithet, n so much. God sent her to me for a reason, so ill take advantage…. stay strong everyone, if u truly love him/her it will work. My youtube channel is tallboywitshortpants. 12. Rickelle 21. Jan, 2012 Today is our first day my boyfriend. it was so hard to see him get on the train. We are planning to move to where he is headed so I’m just praying no one else takes my place. I’m hoping this lasts only 6 to 8 months. But today im just going to cry all day 13. Grovett 21. Jan, 2012 Dear mi, I read your comment…and I think you should go after her!!! That would be so freaking romantic!!! If you love her, if you still have feelings for her, go find her. Sweep her off her feet and be her Prince Charming! 14. Stefani 22. Jan, 2012 Now it’s only 7 months, but still we have big plans for future. Now I am in UK and he is in Moldova, in summer he moves to Canada for uni. I’m going to Amsterdam to have my bachelor degree. Again distance, but I think this relationship will work out. Been before in such relationship, it ended when we spent 2 weeks together..but this guy, I know him for 2 years, we’ve been best friends for all that 2 years and now we’re together <3 we'll be separated for 4 more years, but the second year of uni I'll be going to Canada for my internship, the third year he'll come for his internship for WHOLE YEAR! and then in the end of fourth year I'll come again to Canada for half year. My spirit hopes and believes from now and till eternity. 15. Emily 22. Jan, 2012 As I am typing this, I’m on my 25 hour drive to NYC from a small town in East Texas. I fell in love with my boyfriend last year on January 4 and since then there was not a day that we were not together, until now. I’m only 18 years, and he’s only 17, but we are so in love it is unreal. We have both decided to stay together because I will be back for 3 months during the summer, but this day has been one of the hardest days of my life. Going to the Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC has always been my dream, but I’m not sure whether I want it as bad anymore.. I’m just sad and I miss him and I want to be with him every day.. But NYC is better for my career so I’m just stuck! Help please? 16. rajesh 23. Jan, 2012 w r in different far off countries… its tough.. its 1.5 years now, away from each other and 3 years in all…. Shes got a job now and that has made it all the more tough 4 me… she keeps busy throughout the day and I constantly call her, this irritates her. any tips? 17. Ripan 24. Jan, 2012 My bf and me hve been in relationship since 6th grade ..at present we r doing our degrees bt i am in india and he went to canda to study there ..i miss him soooo much though he calls me everyday. Its very difficlt to stay away .i miss his eyes on me.we are waiting very eagrly when we will get married ..lolz 18. Kim 26. Jan, 2012 Building a new relationship is a whole lot harder than maintaining an existing one. The easiest one to weather is the temporary stuff if you’re committed to the relationship you just have to figure out a way to survive the difficult months. There are different kinds of relationships across the miles and miles and they require different things. When my husben leaves for weeks or months and a time. I love to visit captaincupid.com you’ll learn from others, share your experiences and re-discover sex. They offer online shopping you can trust, a welcoming community and a wealth of inspiring resources. We celebrate the fact that sexuality can be expressed in many ways. 19. Kim 26. Jan, 2012 Building a new relationship is a whole lot harder than maintaining an existing one. The easiest one to weather is the temporary stuff if you’re committed to the relationship you just have to figure out a way to survive the difficult months. There are different kinds of relationships across the miles and miles and they require different things. When my husben leaves for weeks or months at a time. I love to visit captaincupid.com you’ll learn from otheirs, share your experiences and re-discover sex. They offer online shopping you can trust, a welcoming community and a wealth of inspiring resources. We celebrate the fact that sexuality can be expressed in many ways. 20. Laby 30. Jan, 2012 I am in ldr,almost 2years already.we usually meet everytime i have vacation the smallest time was 14days,the longest was 24days.I know he loves me,he used to talk to me in the morbig when i wake up and also put me in bed at night.almost everyday unless he has to travel..but soon as possible he did everything for me.The time i discovered that hes not yet divorce the trouble started,but he lives in his apt 3yrs already and have his daughter in the weekend.We actually broke up when his wife keep harassing me.but after week he asked another chance when he realized he cant live without me.He wants to do the divorce but the wife get sick(kidney cancer)and she needs his insurance if not the judge said he will shoulder all the payment.Im still waiting bec he said he will not come back if everything still be the same,i wanna believe he has plan and also im afraid he will think i dont trust him.Im loosing hope,really tired and hopeless but cant get out from it still.I am single with work…and until now my mind still in trouble..plus he ask me a baby..he wants to have a family with me..he said give him the thing that is very important to him and i will not regret of choosing him.Love rearry complicated.He choose me but sometimes it still not enough specially in our sitation plus…the distance. Advice pls…. 21. Eleanor 31. Jan, 2012 Although my bf and i are away from each other for 3 months, but it feels so much like 30 years… It’s so different when we get to see each other everyday… And it almost seems like he’ll be there permanently, and it’s giving me doubts that our relationship will grow towards the big bells… Haiz… I don’t know what to do, we love each other, but it seems like the distance isn’t helping much… =’( 22. Shail 01. Feb, 2012 I love my gf very much.. she lives 1500 miles away from me. We are in relationship for 10 months and 1 day… We are happy.. 23. singh 04. Feb, 2012 we r in relation for almost a year…..met her only once durring all dis tym…..she stays in oder state…..we both talk on phone, internet….nd d eagerness of meeting each odr is making our bond more stronger…..gonna meet her in march…:) 24. Cameron 06. Feb, 2012 I Been in a relatationship with my future wife for a year 1 month and 16 days and we just cant wait for the one day were we can finally meet i love her so much i wish we could get married Now!!